3 Keys to Habitual Success

In today’s information age, it is becoming more and more difficult for individuals, businesses, and even families to find that winning “edge”.  For many this may sound too simple, yet for others it may seem like too much to ask.  Regardless of your current status or position, you CAN do this and you CAN win. I can make you this one promise here and now: If you will implement this info in a consistent effort over time, you WILL succeed!

One of the most impressive things I’ve seen in the LIFE business is watching tens of thousands of people succeeding in all areas of life because they are practicing these three habits. A small sampling of results currently happening all over North America right now; friends restore broken relationships, marriages being healed from on the brink of divorce, individuals and families getting debt free, business partners learning how to work with each other again, business owners learning how to understand employees and customers better, employees at risk of unemployment rising to be superstars! Your results will be based on how well you implement these three keys into your life.

  1.  READ
  2. LISTEN
  3. ASSOCIATE

Let’s cover READING first:

I’ve heard it said many different ways, in some form or another that every great leader in history has been a great reader. The contrary to that is not all people who are great readers will be great leaders. Reading is only one piece of the puzzle.  The fact is that although you must read, you must read the right books.  I’m not talking about reading the next big novel by your favorite author or reading the supermarket tabloids or even the comics in the Sunday paper. There may be time for those, but you will want to keep that at a bare minimum if you truly want success. “Well, how do I know what books to read?” You might ask.  I’m so glad you asked. You should be reading the best books on leadership, economics, history, philosophy, and the classics. I know what you’re thinking… “How do I know which books are the best?”  That answer will come from the third key habit of association. Finding someone who has already read thousands of books who can guide you to the best ones is a really good start.  We’ll talk more about that later.

To LISTEN is to have wisdom:

I love the way Orrin Woodward puts it: “You know why we want you to listen to CD’s? It’s to get you to shut you up.”  This may be a bit harsh for some but the truth is that we all know how to talk to ourselves very negatively all the time, right? Right!  I know you know how this goes because I do it just the same as you.  Zig Ziglar and many others over the years have been big proponents of keeping a constant stream of positive information coming at you through audio form. Every bit of research done on the subject continues to prove and reinforce the idea that by listening to positive audio recordings each day will have a profound effect on your attitude by the way you start to talk to yourself.   You would be amazed at how much difference just a single cd in the morning can make on the rest of your day!

 

The right ASSOCIATION will lead you to greatness:

We do it with our children all the time but most of us are unwilling to do it for ourselves! Picture for a moment your son or daughter comes to you and makes the request to go hang out with neighbor kids or friends from school. You know about the negative influence the kids will be on your child. So you naturally say “no”.  What about yourself?  Just as negative association is bad for your child; it is bad for you as an adult. It has been said that we become the average of the five people we associate with most.  It is true for every area of life. Think about the five people you associate with most. Now average out the quality of life in several areas; finances, relationship with spouse, relationship with children, household cleanliness, and habits like smoking or being late for appointments. So let’s turn the tables on this idea. What if you were to seek out and intentionally associate with winners, movers and shakers, people who are learning, growing and improving?  By spending time with people who are better than you are will naturally put you in a position to get better.  By associating with those who are greater than you are currently you will learn what books to read and what audios you should be listening to because that person has naturally already been listening and reading and therefore, knows which are good and which are not.

And so we have come full circle.  By associating with the right group of people, you will be able to glean the most valuable information to help you grow.  If you have no idea where to start, let me offer this piece of advice: Start with yourself!  You can become the leader needed in your household, business, community group, or any circle of influence you are currently a part of.

These three habits practiced consistently over time will produce better results in your life! You can make the choice to start today!

If you need help finding a source for the best books and audios to start your journey, I am happy to help you get started on your journey of success today.  Feel free to contact me any time.

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Leaders Don’t…

Leaders “Don’t whine, don’t complain, and don’t make excuses!”

These words from John Wooden quoting his father are imperative for every leader to understand and practice.  Your success as a leader will be hindered drastically by letting yourself take part in these three progressively negative attitudes.  It is important to understand the difference first.  When you read that quote did you think to yourself like I did,  “Whining and complaining are the same, why say it twice?” Let’s try to understand the progressive nature of the attitude behind each one and why they are so dangerous.

Whining. We’ve all hear it.  You’re working with or next to a person and then you hear it. It’s that low, sometimes quiet exasperated noise; that “uhhg”, “grrr” or some other raspy noise that is impossible to spell,  that resonates through your eardrums like fingernails across the chalkboard. (If you don’t know what a chalkboard is, ask someone over the age of thirty.)   whining

The attitude has taken hold! If you are the one finding yourself in this situation, It is time to STOP and take a moment to think about what you’re allowing to happen to yourself.   What is the underlying issue?  Selfishness.  You are upset because something is not going your way, your focus is 100% on yourself and how you feel in the moment.  I warn you not to let it go further.  If you find yourself whining, I can promise you this; everyone hears you, nobody is listening to you and nobody want to be around you.  this is your wake up call!  Don’t advance into the next phase of Complaining.

“There is nothing more unattractive than the sound of whining in the midst of plenty. it is not a good sign of character at any level – in individuals, families, communities, or nations as a whole.”  -William J. Bennett, Virtues of Leadership

no-complaininglThe advancement from whining to complaining can happen in a single breath. As soon as you open your mouth to say something, you have taken the next giant leap into complaining mode. You are now begging for sympathy from anyone within earshot.  I’m going to let in on a little secret here.  please take note of what I’m about to say.  NOBODY wants to hear it!  NOBODY will listen to it! You will find NO SYMPATHY in your plea!   If you are in a position of leadership, you have just lost a degree of respect and trust from your subordinates!  If you are an employee, You are no longer being looked at for a promotion and perhaps more so in today’s tough economy, you may be at risk of losing your position.

making-excuses

Making excuses is the culmination of selfishness and a bad attitude seeking pity. If you take the next step and begin making excuses, you have given away your ability to make any changes. By complaining, you have removed any personal responsibility for the problem and therefore the solution cannot come from yourself.  When Complaining, you are simply putting the responsibility for change, or solving the problem on someone else. You are essentially saying “he did it.” or “it wasn’t my fault because, …”  or “I did what I was supposed to do, but…” to name only a few common excuses. I’m sure you can insert a dozen more of your own here.  You know it when you here it.  This, unfortunately is an epidemic in our society.

As a leader, YOU can stop at any point and choose to take responsibility. Even if it was not your fault, you, as the leader are still responsible.  Let me say this a different way;  whoever takes the responsibility IS the leader (with or without a formal position) and will be the one to make the changes needed.  I challenge you today to be the person who takes responsibility!  You CAN  do it!

Remember this simple point: Your problem is not as big as you think it is and you have complete control over your own attitude towards your problems.

I want to share this great example with you to illustrate my point. It’s the story of Grumble Town. (from Virtues of Leadership by William J. Bennett)

     There was once a place called Grumble Town where everybody grumbled, grumbled, grumbled. In summer, the people grumbled that it was too hot. In winter, it was too cold. When it rained, the children whimpered because they couldn’t go outside. When the sun came out, they complained that they had nothing to do.  Neighbors griped and groaned about neighbors, Parents about children, brother about sisters, Everybody has a problem, and everyone whined that someone should come do something about it. One day a peddler trudged into town, carrying a big basket on his back. When he heard all the fussing and sighing and moaning, he put his basket down and cried: “O citizens of this town! your fields are ripe with grain, your orchards heavy with fruit. Your mountains are covered by good, thick forests, and your valleys watered by the deep, wide rivers. Never have I seen a place blessed by such opportunity and abundance. Why are you so dissatisfied? Gather around me, and will show you the way to contentment.”

     Now this peddler’s shirt was tattered and torn. His pants showed patches, his shoes had holes. The people laughed to think that someone like him could show them how to be content. But while they snickered, he pulled a long rope from his basket and strung it between two poles in the town square. Then, holding his basket before him, he cried: “People of Grumble Town! Whoever is dissatisfied, write your trouble on a piece of paper, and bring it and put it in this basket. I will exchange your problem for happiness!”

     The crowd swarmed around him. No one hesitated at the chance to get rid of his trouble. Every man, woman, and child in the village scribbled a grumble onto a scrap of paper and dropped it into the basket.

     They watched as the peddler took each grumble and hung it on the line. By the time he was through, troubles fluttered on every inch of the rope, from end to end. Then he said: “Now each one of you should take from this magic line the smallest trouble you can find.”

     They all rushed forward to examine all the troubles. They hunted and fingered and pondered, each trying to pick the very smallest trouble. After a while the magic line was empty.

     And behold! Each held in his hand the very same trouble he had put into the basket. Each had chosen his own trouble, thinking it was the smallest of all on the line.

     From that day, the people of Grumble Town stopped grumbling all the time. And whenever anyone had the urge to whimper or whine, he thought of the peddler and his magic line.

Remember, if you want to be an effective leader follow Coach Wooden’s advise…  Don’t whine, don’t complain, and don’t make excuses.

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Triple-A Formula for Attracting People

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More than six decades ago there was a book written by Les Giblin titled How to Have Confidence and Power in Dealing with People. This is one of those books to read over, and over, and over again.  It never gets old. In fact, It will likely reveal more with each new time you read it. The principles found within are timeless.  This book is one of five top books I can recommend to anyone who deals with living, breathing human beings in any part of his or her life.  (Yes. That means YOU.)

I’m part of a TEAM of people building Compensated Communities. We use this information daily to improve people skills.  I hope you find this information helpfull in your own business dealings.

One of the biggest and most important takeaway’s from this book is what Les calls the “Triple-A formula for attracting people”.

The first “A” is ACCEPTANCE.

Every person on this planet craves it at the most primitive level. We literally NEED it in order to function at a normal level within any community we associate with.  Les Quotes a psychologist as saying “No one has the power to reform another person, but by liking the other person as he is, you give him the power to change himself.”  I think one could just as easily refer to the Golden Rule; do to others what you would want done to you.  Am I Right?  Lets just go back to the principle based off the words of Jesus when he was asked what the greatest law was. Jesus basically replied by saying first love God then love people. You can read that story in Matthew chapter 22, verses 34-40.

Acceptance works wonders in any relationship. As Mr. Giblin goes on to describe the husband/wife relationship, he makes it very clear that ” Of course, everything I’ve said about wives applies just as much, if not more so, to husbands.” What he is referring to in that remarks is found in part in the following words.“… a wife gives her husband acceptance not only give him a dose of self-confidence, but also gives him a good dose of human kindness, and that easy-to-get-along-with quality. for, by her acceptance, she helps him to like himself better. When he likes himself better, he is going to be easier to get along with . He is going to be more thoughtful and considerate.”

The same thing can be applied to a co-worker or some other family member or acquaintance.  The principle is the same and the results will follow, although not every relationship will see the improvement within the same length of time.  You may have to be patient… very patient sometimes!  If you also add the use of the second “A”, you may not need to wait quite so long.

The Second “A” is APPROVAL.

 Acceptance is the fist step because it’s allowing the negative traits to exist but approval takes it to the next level by finding and pointing out the positive traits in the person. This is truly magic if you are actually sincere! BE SINCERE! I cannot stress this point enough. Anybody can smell a phony compliment. Find something that you can GENUINELY approve of in the person you’re talking to. Stay away from the obvious traits, the ones that “everybody” sees.  Take the time to look deeper and get specific.  Les puts it this way: “A good rule to remember in complimenting people is this: people are more pleased at a compliment if you praise them for some virtue that is not glaringly obvious.” He follows that up with this. “But he may be good at other things, which are not so obvious. Seek these out and praise him for them, and watch him glow!”  That sure sounds like magic to me.  I challenge you to go out right now and make another person glow.  The world would be a better place if more of us did that!

Let’s check out the third “A” which is APPRECIATE.

Les Giblin does a marvelous job at showing us what it means to appreciate someone. He says “The word appreciate really means to raise in value, or the opposite of depreciate, which means to lower in value.  Wow! did you catch that?  By appreciating someone else, we are raising them in value!  Les Quotes Dr. Brooks with saying it this way: “When you appreciate a person, you actually make him more valuable and more successful.” If you want to increase your Social capital and have more people like being around you, then you must find a way tell other people what you like and value about them. You must treat them as an individual instead of “rubber-stamping” them in the same manner you do everyone else.

I will end with this:

Some of you need to stop being so focused on your self and start turning your focus toward increasing the value of others around you. I can promise you one thing. If you take these three A’s and put them into practice in your life, you will be amazed at how much value others will then place on you!

I sincerly appreciate each one of you who take the time to tell me what you think, like, and share this blog.  Thank-you.

~Philip

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LeaderShift: An introduction

This blog from Orrin Woodward is so good I had to share it with you.  I have included the full text below.  I highly suggest you check out his blog on a regular basis. Please enjoy this fantastic article from Orrin Woorward!

LeaderShift: The Quest for Concord

Posted by Orrin Woodward on March 8, 2013

I have been working on the background details to the government proposal in Oliver DeMille and my soon-to-be-released book LeaderShift. I know this sounds crazy, but I LOVE this stuff! A concerted study of history through the Five Laws of Decline reveals so much we can do, as a society, to improve. No matter how long this takes, I am going to capture the concepts for this generation’s leaders to apply if they desire a free society. The LIFE Business is filled with men and women who are willing to lead because they are willing to learn. The future is bright! Here is a portion of the introduction.

Sincerely,

Orrin Woodward

Leaning Tower Equals Weak Foundation

Leaning Tower Equals Weak Foundation

Mankind’s quest for societal concord (peace and harmony) between the opposite extremes of chaos and coercion is as old as human civilization. Indeed, every society quests after concord; however, it’s rarely achieved and never maintained. Despite the difficulties, mankind seeks the advantages gained through association when families form clans to create communities that combine into society. The Greeks founded Western Civilization, supplying many of foundational concepts for society and government through their city-states dotting the Aegean landscape. In fact, Greek philosopher Aristotle described human beings as political animals, who formed societies to enjoy the benefits of association. Nonetheless, the Greek failed miserably in the quest for concord as the city-states fratricidal wars created chaos throughout Greek society. Mercifully, after decades of civil war, the exhausted Greeks collapsed into the Roman Republic’s orbit. Ironically, however, even though Romans witnessed the catastrophic effects of the Greek chaos within society, the Republic fell victim to a similar chaos when the mounting Roman political and civil strife led to civil war. The Senate and Pompey squared off against Caesar which culminated in the destruction of the Roman Republic.

Despite the senatorial conspiracy that killed Caesar, the Roman Republic was not restored. Instead, another round of civil wars and chaos ensued until Augustus defeated Marcus Antony and birthed the Roman Empire. At last, Western Society moved the pendulum from chaos towards concord. Caesar Augustus ruled wisely. He limited taxation and the plunder of the provinces; thus, for a brief period, the results was the Roman peace (Pax Romana). Unfortunately, the pendulum’s momentum did not rest at concord. At Augustus death, the new Caesars increased government’s responsibilities until the pendulum moved into the control and coercion of society’s members. The Caesar’s and their ruling elites enjoyed more power at the expense of its citizens freedoms.  By the end of the empire, the bloated bureaucracies consumed the wealth of its citizens to feed the coercive civil and military branches. In fact, when the Roman Empire fell, many within the oppressed Roman society, viewed the Gothic barbarians as liberators and not invaders.

Studying the Greco/Roman societies provide valuable lessons in the pendulum swings from chaos to coercion and back again. Despite momentary intervals of peace and prosperity, the pendulum never came to rest at concord. The pendulum’s momentum either carried it towards chaos or coercion. To be sure, there were solid parts in the Greco/Roman political foundations, but there were also sinkholes. Predictably, these sinkholes caused the political collapse of all three societies. The first two under chaos and the third under coercion. Therefore, identifying the specific failure modes of each Greco/Roman society and learning from them is essential for today’s political leaders.

Not surprisingly, the English (Anglo/Saxon) societies learned many lessons, both good and bad, from Greco/Roman history. In fact, the English-speaking peoples built their political foundations upon the strengths of the Greco/Roman (reason and order), Judeo/Christian (hope and ethics), and Anglo/Saxon (liberty and passion) societies. When King William, of Normandy, successfully invaded England in the13th century, the confluence of these rivers formed the the famed English political tradition. Therefore, the author examines three Anglo/Saxon case-studies societies for further review.

1. Great Britain under the Stuart Kings 2. America under the Articles of Confederation 3. America after the United States Constitution

These three societies attempted, by different methods, to rest society’s pendulum at concord. Each ultimately failed. Essentially, these societies failed in a similar fashion as the Greco/Roman models. The pendulum never rested, swinging into chaos and then back into coercion, with brief moments of concord. Indeed, it seems the Anglo/Saxons, in many ways, have repeated the mistakes of the Greco/Romans. Although the political structures may be different, underneath the edifice is the same failed foundation that continues to collapse when too much weight is placed upon it. In other words, if the definition of insanity is to continue to do the same thing while expecting a different results, Western Society’s political tradition has reached the point of insanity. The quest for concord remains unconsummated. Systematically, the political structures are failing because the pendulum moves out of concord into either chaos or coercion. No society, to date, has successfully rested the pendulum at concord. What are the systemic causes underlying these failed attempts? How can the momentum of the pendulum be  checked to rest it at concord? The questions and more the author proposes to answer in the following chapters.

The purpose of this treatise is to determine solid ground from the sinkholes in the foundations of the Greco/Roman and Anglo/Saxon political traditions. By understanding the historical foundations reviewed in this book, Western Society will be strengthened in its quest for concord. Indeed, the dangers inherent when the pendulum swings to the either the side of chaos or coercion is irrefutable. In consequence, the author seeks the firm ground of concord between the opposite, but equally damaging, extremes of chaos and coercion. The case-studies will proceed in chronological order because each society learned from those that preceded it. The main objective is to identify why and how each society failed and what lessons can be learned from their example. Hence, each society’s successes and failures will be analyzed to determine what remained solid from what ultimately sunk in its political foundations. Ideally, to build enduring political structures today, society should build upon the foundational principles that proved successful and reform those that failed the test of time. History is relentless and unsentimental in its verdicts. Either the political structure stands or it collapses. The key to history is to identify why. Nevertheless, few political leaders seem willing to be tutored by these truths of history. Society, it seems, repeats failures because it’s unwilling to learn from them.

At any rate, Western Civilization has not fulfilled its quest for concord. As a result, determining past societies failures and preventing similar failures today ought to be the high priority in Western Society’s quest for concord. Understanding what forces move the pendulum from concord to either chaos on one side or coercion on the other is crucial. Consequently, before outlining the historical societies, the author must first explain two systems that influence the pendulum within society. One strives to center the pendulum at concord while the other moves it towards chaos or coercion. The first is the Six Duties of Society (SDS) and the second is the Five Laws of Decline (FLD). The Six Duties of Society are the essential building-blocks for creating a sustainable society, helping to build an environment where mankind can grow and prosper. In contrast, the Five Laws of Decline describe the effects of mankind’s sinful nature. If left unchecked, the FLD will parasitically destroy a formerly healthy society. Both systems will be explained in general now and specifically to each Greco/Roman and Anglo/Saxon case-study in the preceding chapters.

The important point for the reader to grasp is that society must satisfy the SDS in order to survive. However, even when the SDS are met, society isn’t secure. safe. For when societal prosperity increases, it stimulates the FLD into action.  An unchecked FLD within society develops groups that seeks to plunder what the rest have produced. Eventually, an unchecked FLD destroys the SDS because the parasitic plunderers strip the plundered physically and mentally. This, in a nutshell, is the quick version of Western History. Unfortunately, even a cursory examination of each failed society in Western Civilization reveals the FLD as the culprit of collapse.

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A LeaderShift is Coming!

LeaderShift-BookOrrin Woodward and Oliver DeMille have teamed up to bring us this amazing book!

This book comes at a pivotal point in our nation’s history!  This is one of, if not THE most important book in our generation. LeaderShift  is a book written in fable form that will teach us all “how to recognize and overcome the five laws of decline”.  This book is a must read for every American and Canadian!

Overview

(From Barnes&Noble)

A most provocative business parable for our troubled times, LeaderShift is the story of how David Mersher, the successful CEO of IndyTech, sets out to discover why the United States is losing its leadership edge and what he can do to turn things around and make America truly great again.

In the process, Mersher and his team learn how the Five Laws of Decline are eroding the nation’s economy-quietly ruining businesses and big institutions-and what American executives and citizens need to do to put a stop to this.

Above all, Mersher and his colleagues discover something few business leaders or citizens of free nations have yet to realize: Our world today is on the verge of a momentous LeaderShift, one which will reframe the twenty-first century and significantly alter the way we govern, lead, and do business.

When Mersher and his team get help from a surprising source, the result is stunning and unexpected-and it’s one that concerned Americans will certainly reflect upon for decades to come.

The next LeaderShift is almost here.

Are you ready?

While we wait for the release of this incredible book on April 16th, I would like to suggest one other book that each person should read immediately!

Resolved-BookResolved: 13 Resolutions for LIFE

Men like George Washington, Benjamin Franklin, and Jonathan Edwards had virtues, maxims, or resolutions which they practiced daily, weekly, and monthly. These practices where similar to that of many people of our founding generation.  We, as Americans who enjoy the life that these men helped to provide for us, have lost such a valuable tool as practicing this thing called resolutions.  Aside from one time each year for about two weeks, we never hear the word “resolution” spoken in our every-day conversations.  When was the last time you had a conversation with even your closest friends in which either of you asked “So, how are you doing with your resolutions”?  We don’t hear that because we’ve gotten away from these habits in our overall society.  Orrin does and incredible job of laying out a roadmap for us in this book.  These 13 resolutions build upon each other from personal, to public and then into leadership achievements. These 13 resolutions have changed my life and so many others.  I invite you to join me in this journey today. There are two ways you can join me in this journey. First, you can order your copy of the book today. Second, you take the Mental Fitness Challenge!

MFC

The Mental Fitness Challenge (MFC) is a cutting-edge program developed by world-renowned leadership gurus and best-selling authors to teach success thinking that will help enable anyone and everyone to make improvements in their lives.

Try it out now for FREE or get more details.

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The 8 F’s of LIFE

We all need help in at least one, if not multiple areas of our lives.  If you were to take an honest assessment of yourself you would begin to find a need for improvement in each of the 8 F’s show in the picture below.

The 8 F’s are:life-wheel

Our current skills in these 8 areas make up and determine the quality of life we are living.  If you choose to recognise and then take action toward improving in any area, incrementally, over time you will find yourself in a new place and living a far better quality of life than perhaps you might have imagined just a short time prior.

I love what the founders of  The LIFE Business did with the design of the picture above.  The 8 F’s are the spokes of the wheel that steer the ship in a given direction.  What should be obvious to most people might certainly be overlooked by some.  Let me explain.  Have you ever heard the saying ” you can’t steer a parked car”?  In the same way, you cannot steer a ship that is still tied to the dock. You were given special gifts and talents by God to be used for and with others and not to be used or hoarded for yourself.  The goods (gifts and talents) you were given are doing no good sitting in the hull of your ship tied to the dock!

I want to challenge you today to untie your ship, push-off from the dock,  and set sail into a bright new future so that you might live the life you’ve always wanted.

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Our Local Vision

I have the distinct pleasure to be involved with a group of people in the Seattle, Washington area that are in the process of building a community of people through the LIFE Business who are all moving in this same direction! We are going to be a major force for change in Western Washington.

Dream-Major At Safeco Field

As we look ahead to the future, the leaders of our local team here are very excited to dream big, plan accordingly, and go do the work to get it done. One specific dream that we believe God has placed on our hearts is to fill a major arena like Safeco Field (as the picture above shows) with business people, entrepreneurs and LIFE members who are all growing in leadership skills and abilities while getting financially free to go make a bigger difference in our world! With God’s help we will be a force for good in our culture today. We will reach tens-of-thousands of people here in the Seattle area for the purposes of God, by His grace and mercy alone.

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Expanding the Leadership Culture

As a starting point for this blog I thought it would be fitting to share something that Stephen R. Covey said in his book The 8th Habit

“It will be those organizations that reach a critical mass of people and teams expressing their full voice that will achieve next-level breakthrough in productivity, innovation and leadership in the marketplace and society.”

This is precisely what the LIFE Business is doing.  Thanks to Orrin Woodward and the other founders of LIFE who have paved the way for the rest of us, we now have a systematic, franchise style business that is producing the next generation of leaders and entrepreneurs that will be the catalyst for restoring the values in our culture that have been ripped away and lost over the last several decades!

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